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One of the greatest urban legends about meditation is that our experience should be all bliss, butterflies and serenity with no thoughts and a calm mind. While that *might* be your experience, the other 99% of us will probably encounter things like tight hips, unwanted distractions, strong emotions and a busy mind in meditation.
This is not only common, it’s wonderful. Because the kicker is that this is precisely how we develop a calm and spacious mind over time.
Our purpose in meditation is not to get rid of thoughts and distractions, but rather to become a bit more intimate, aware, and accommodating of them when they do arise. With practice, they become less charged, less of a problem. And we in turn become less reactive when challenges (big and small) arise off the meditation cushion.
If your mind is busy in meditation, trust me— you’re doing great. The practice isn’t just about fleeting serenity. This is where we learn to hold our seat.
---- Via MNDFL Meditation :: Wind Down Wednesday